Bonnie learned her most valuable lessons not in law school, but in karate. Although its been years since Bonnie threw a kick or punch in a match, the lessons of focus, discipline and timing still ring true in and out of the dojo. Focus. Focus in a matrimonial or family action is critical. It is so easy to get sidelined by the personal issues of the moment - the tit-for-tat. Keep your eye on the bigger picture and let's work on a long-term resolution that minimizes conflict.